My lover and I were together 7 years when he just up and left me. His family never accepted him as a gay man and I found out that they were pressuring him to leave me. He left me and move three states away, I was so torn up that I felt as though my life was ripping apart at the seams. A good friend of mine referred me to Phelan, I signed up on his site and started corresponding with him, his directness and demeanor had a calming effect on me and it took a little over two years for me to reap the benefit of the work that he and I did together, partly because I was so stubborn and wanted instant gratification that I couldn't see that I was doing more harm than good, soon after that light went on communication between my man and I started and we are now reconnected stronger than ever before. You are my gay hero Phelan and I am your loyal subject. Yours in friendship.