Fat Lady's Train Wreck
Love is not always an easy task and at times it is often made harder
when the feelings that we once had for our life-mate seemingly
disappear, I am not sure if it is a normal part of the process that we
call love or not, although I have been told many times from a reliable
source that when two people have been involved in a long-term
relationship that it is common for them to periodically fall out of
love with one another on a temporary basis, the scary part is when your
feelings are so raw that temporary is the equation of insanity!
I suppose that it is entirely possible to temporarily fall out of love
with someone, although the only experience of this nature that I have
ever had is to fall out of love in a more permanent way, breakups are
never easy and although we would like to end things gracefully and with
dignity, it has been my experience that breakups almost always windup
like a train wreck, disastrous, the only hope that one may hold onto is
that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and hopefully that light
is not a freight train that is bearing down on you with a head full of
steam!
There are normally two ways to handle a breakup, you can either accept
that it is over or you may choose to stand your ground and fight for
what and whom you love, in my opinion the best way to avoid ever having
to deal with the subject of breaking it off with your partner is to pay
close attention to what is going on with him or her and make sure that
you are attentive to his or her needs, if you are paying attention and
if you really care, you may be able to cut that impending train off at
the pass, hopefully before it derails, however, if you choose to ignore
the warning signs and you refuse to do your part maybe a train wreck is
exactly what you deserve and are asking for.
The problem with most people is that they want everything to be easy or
handed to them, and they do not really want to have to work or exert
too much of their own energy to get it. Here is a very good example,
now, I thoroughly enjoy working with and helping my clients on any
level that I can, but I would be willing to bet you that at least 70%
of the people who seek my help with reuniting with a lover could have
avoided their situation altogether, the key is paying attention and
giving your partner the love and respect that he or she deserves, I
know at times that I have failed in this area myself, when a
relationship ends there are two people involved and as I was always
told by my Mother, there are without a doubt three sides to every
story, there is yours, mine and then the truth, because everyone only
sees things that they want to see their interpretation of the truth may
vary greatly from that of yours and mine, but it doesn't really matter,
because we cannot hide from the truth, as the truth is a harsh mistress
and she will eventually seek you out and force you to look yourself in
the mirror with a slap of honesty across your face that will be a
stinging reminder of the mistakes that you made and the indiscretions
that cost you your relationship!
Relationships are hard and require nurturing, just like flowers need
the Sun and water, our mates need to be reminded often that they are
still important, they need to feel the warmth of our touch and the
smile of our honesty, they need to be held and caressed and most of all
they do not need to be taken for granted, after all you and I do not
like it one little bit when we are taken for granted or when our mates
push the envelope just a little too much by constantly asking for more
than we are prepared to give, I simply do not feel that it is right
when someone ask something of their partner that they themselves would
be unwilling to give or to do, but this scenario happens quite often in
relationships and when it does sometimes it may seem as though the last
straw has been broken or the final line has been crossed, but I believe
that if love is present things always have a way of working out, the
only danger here is if you are dealing with someone who has already
made up his or her mind that enough is enough and that the fat lady has
sung and of course you know that things have gotten really bad and you
are in trouble when the fat lady is joined by a chorus and the sounds
of their voices ring constantly throughout your day.
There is always hope of reuniting and reconnecting with a lost love or
a love gone wrong, but the easiest way is to avoid the pitfalls of your
relationship altogether, if you have lost a lover to someone else or to
mistakes that you made or mistakes that were collective within your
relationship and if you can reflect back and honestly say that you did
your level best than you have nothing to mourn or to correct, but at
the end of the day if you cannot answer that question honestly yes, you
still have much work to do within yourself and casting a love spell to
reunite may work, but it will not correct bad behavior that is
ingrained or learned, true change has to come from within our own heart
to truly manifest and to make a difference.
I guess the whole point of this article is to appeal to the masses,
those individuals who are still at home and comfortable with the one
that they love, wake up now and do not allow yourself to become so
comfortable within your relationship that the one that you love ends up
feeling neglected and one of the easiest ways of ensuring that our
needs are met is through meeting the needs of our life-mate, love is an
energy that is meant to be reciprocated, love is not and was never
meant to be a one way street or a train that is rushing blindly to its
destination and ends up crumpled and broken before it arrives, do not
allow your relationship to be destroyed because you are worrying about
what is right or wrong, instead work on fixing the aspects that are in
need of repair and regain your footing on a solid foundation and work
from there, I hope that if you are reading this and you are not
currently a client of mine working towards reuniting with a lost love
that you never become my client, at least not for that reason, so
please take care of yourself and the one that you love and may the
Goddess bestow her blessing upon you and yours.
Blessed Be
Phelan