Love is a free flowing energy that is housed in the Universe; and lust, well, lust is that fire that ignites the body sometimes clouds the mind, and I feel that many of you confuse the two more often than not, and that confusion is exactly why you find yourself running in circles, chasing people who cannot, or will not, give you what you truly need.

Let me tell you something right out of the gate, and I mean this; there is nothing wrong with wanting love, and there is nothing wrong with wanting desire, passion, and intimacy, but when you start mixing those currents without understanding what you are working with, you end up creating chaos in your life, and chaos has a funny way of coming back around and biting you right where it hurts the most.

Now, over the years, I have worked with countless individuals, and I have seen it all, people hell-bent on bringing back a lover who has moved on, people trying to ignite passion in someone who barely notices them, and yes, those who want both love and lust wrapped into one neat little package, and I will tell you this, it can be done, but it requires clarity, discipline, and most importantly, honesty with yourself.

Because here is the thing, and let me say it loudly, if you do not know the difference between love and lust, you have no business casting for either one.

Love nurtures, lust consumes; learn the difference and you learn control.

Love spells, when done properly, are about connection, harmony, and long-term fulfillment; they are not about control, manipulation, or forcing someone into your arms against their will, and if that is your mindset, you are already setting yourself up for disappointment. Lust spells, on the other hand, are about attraction, magnetism, and raw desire, they are fast-moving, powerful, and can be intoxicating, but they do not always last, and that is where people get themselves into trouble.

I have had clients come to me saying, “Phelan, I want him to love me,” and within the same breath, they describe a situation that is purely physical, purely driven by chemistry and obsession, and I sit there thinking, hmm, you are not asking for love, you are asking for lust with a romantic label slapped on top of it.

And that is not the same thing.

Now, with that said, let’s break this down in a way that you can actually use in your life and in your practice, because I am not here to confuse you, I am here to help you.

When you are working a love spell, you need to be clear on your intention. Ask yourself:

1. Do I want a long-term connection with this person?
2. Am I prepared for the emotional responsibility that comes with love?
3. Is this person available, emotionally and physically?
4. Am I trying to heal something within myself through them?

You see, love spells are not just about bringing someone to you; they are about aligning your energy with the type of relationship you desire, and if your energy is scattered, desperate, or rooted in fear, that is exactly what you are going to attract.

I have said it before and I will say it again, you cannot build a stable house on a shaky foundation.

Lust spells are a different animal altogether; they move quickly, they ignite passion, they heighten attraction, and they can absolutely draw someone into your orbit, but they do not concern themselves with longevity, they do not ask, “Is this healthy?” they simply say, “This feels good right now.”

And there is nothing wrong with that, as long as you understand what you are dealing with.

If you are considering a lust spell, you need to ask yourself:

1. Am I prepared for a temporary connection?
2. Will I become emotionally attached to this person?
3. Can I handle it if this does not turn into love?
4. Am I using this to fill a void?

Because let me be brutally honest with you, and I am not going to sugarcoat this, if you are the type of individual who falls hard and fast, who becomes emotionally dependent, who cannot separate physical intimacy from emotional attachment, then YOU NEED TO THINK TWICE before working with lust-based magic.

STOP IT! IT IS EXTREMELY UNHEALTHY to put yourself in situations that you are not emotionally equipped to handle!

Now, I know some of you are reading this and thinking, “Well, I want both,” and of course you do, who doesn’t? You want the passion, the excitement, the late-night conversations, the deep emotional bond, the whole package, and again, that is perfectly fine, but you need to approach it the right way.

When combining love and lust in spell work, timing and intention are everything; you do not throw everything into one pot and hope for the best, that is not how the Craft works, and any practitioner worth his grain will tell you the same thing.

You start with attraction, you build the connection, and then you nurture the emotional bond, it is a process, not an instant fix.

Magic is not fast food.

I have personally seen situations where someone worked a powerful lust spell, drew the person in, ignited that fire, and then panicked because the relationship lacked depth, and they come running back saying, “Fix it, Phelan,” and I am sitting there thinking, you created exactly what you asked for.

Make no mistakes about it, the Universe listens, and it delivers, but it delivers based on clarity, not confusion.

Be careful what you ask for; the Universe has a way of giving it to you exactly as requested.

Now, let’s talk about something that many practitioners will not tell you, and I am going to be very direct here, you cannot force someone to love you in the way that you want to be loved if they are not aligned with you on a soul level, you can enhance attraction, you can open pathways, you can remove obstacles, but true love requires mutual energy.

And this is where karma comes into play.

If you are trying to pull someone away from another relationship, if you are inserting yourself into a situation that is already complicated, you are creating a web of energy that will eventually have to balance itself out, and sometimes that balancing act is not pleasant.

I have seen love triangles turn into emotional battlegrounds, I have seen people become the third wheel in their own spell work, and I have seen the heartbreak that follows when reality sets in.

So ask yourself, is this worth it?

Is this person truly aligned with me, or am I chasing something because I cannot have it?

Because let’s be honest, sometimes the desire is not about the person, it is about the challenge, the chase, the idea of winning something that feels just out of reach.

And that, my friends, is a dangerous game.

Now, I am not here to discourage you, quite the opposite, I want you to succeed, I want you to have the love, the passion, the connection that you desire, but I also want you to be smart about it, grounded in your approach, and honest with yourself every step of the way.

Learn to project that which you seek, if you want love, embody love, if you want passion, embody passion, if you want both, then balance both within yourself first.

Because the energy you put out into the Universe is the energy that will find its way back to you.

I have worked in the Craft for many years, and I can tell you from personal experience, the most successful workings come from a place of clarity, confidence, and patience, not desperation, not obsession, and certainly not confusion.

So take a step back, look at your situation, and ask yourself, what do I truly want?

Not what you think you should want, not what someone else is telling you to want, but what you, in your heart of hearts, truly desire.

And once you have that answer, move forward with intention, with purpose, and with respect for the energies you are working with.

Because love and lust are powerful forces, and when used correctly, they can bring incredible experiences into your life, but when misunderstood, they can create lessons that are far more painful than they need to be.

With that said, I hope this gives you something to think about, something to reflect on, and something to guide you as you move forward in your practice.

If I can be of assistance to you in any way, you know where to find me.

Blessed Be, Phelan